Today I thank my mom

Today I thank my mom.

It’s Mother’s Day. I’m not a mother

Unless you count mothering stray pets, people and projects.

I’m cat sitting. My friends traveled to be with their parents. Last week they had to put their other cat down. I’m glad to be here.

April was a month of some of the most beautiful things: being with my family in their home it was about 5 years. Getting on a plane again as it used to be my most frequent transport. I was able to be there for my sisters birthday. We did family stuff for a few days straight. So refreshing.

Then there are always the things that won’t go away from my mind.

My ex’s birthday. The car that he got for a birthday led to an all night party without me and ended in a dv case. That was 20 years ago. It took about ten for me to be able to stand up for myself and share my story. In 2010 I got the divorce, moved to Coronado and completed my MBA.

Due to the legal issues it took me 5 years to get a great job. It ended three years later for various reasons. I lost my job, my home and even my cat.

I started all over again. The stress of three jobs and living with lupus alone caused incredible stress. It took one wrong move like dinner and drinks on a very long day.

It totaled my car, wiped out my savings and so many people stayed away. All that I had probably. needed was the level of support and care that I give.

I’m a giver. I am not happy unless I give.

There were a handful of people that loved and supported me through that awful experience. I humorously call my exile to Clairemont .

A year ago a miracle happened. On the anniversary of my mother’s passing I moved into a place in Coronado near most of my friends and groups I volunteer with.

I am grateful as I send out messages to my “mom” friends and seniors and inspiring women.

I learned that from my mom and grandparents. To respect your elders and help as much as possible.

I am thankful though I really miss my mom!